The Dangers Of Marriage

Why not talk about the dangers of rushing into marriage. We all know the popular belief that women should get married at a certain age.That's is true but not entirely correct. This i know about Africans, i don't know about other continents. But today i want to talk about the dangers of marriage for both genders, the men and women. My reasons why i called rushed marriage a danger are, first. when you rush into marriage you do not know if your partner truly love you. You do not know if your love is solely on false attraction or love at first time. You only had a limited time to know your partner. you did not have enough time to study each other. you did not have the opportunity to spend time together and learn your partner likes and dislikes.

Though, you may have courted for six months or more. However, we are in the world of social media. This days, people can pretend to be what their not. People learn everyday from social media how to mask not just their face but their attitude. Another flaw in rushed marriage is what i call opportunity marriage or marriage with benefit. People enter into marriage now just for the sake of what they are going to get from it. This category is some what risky. When a marriage or relationship is build on this platform, anythings goes. Women tends to hurt more with this one because some men are not gentle men as the claim. They are women punchers. Men also do lose out. These men are they men who invested their time and money but come to realize that their partner is fake. She has another man else where but she is just warming the bench until she gets what she want.

In addition to that, your marriage feeds off arguments. There are fights everyday. As for an African in American it is very unsettling for you. Over here everyone is very much entitled to their own opinion. Things are very bad but because your parent back home thinks your enjoying a wonderful marriage you will pretend and stay in false relationship. Little do they know that hell is better than your marriage. Your sad and unhappy. To make matter worse, divorce over here is difficult. The process to getting a divorce is so long and brutal. It even better you stick with your partner than going through divorce.

"Having said that",these are the things i would like you bachelor or bachelorette out there who think, oh! marriage. let just go into marriage because your friend are getting married or because marriage is in trend. Please take note marriage is not that easy. If you've noticed and you did your research well, you will know that lately marriage has been failing. We have a higher percentage of divorce. Up to 50% of  married couple are so unhappy and sad in their marriage. People have been falling out of marriage and no one wants to go into marriage to get a divorce. you want to  go into marriage to live as husband and wife till death do you part.  But due to the fakeness in people.  You are confused. You go into the marriage that turned out to be fake.  Your heartbroken and your out of the marriage. Everything is shattered. Sometimes you are even ashamed to share why your have a broken home.

 In order to save yourself from unnecessary headache why not take your time to get married when you actually want to get married. Not because of others. Do not allow your friends to force you. Do not be persuade by your family members or your mother. Yes your mother, your father or your relatives. They love you so much and they want you to get married but belief me they are not the one to be in that marriage or be with that partner for the rest of their lives, you are. So, prevent that. Save yourself the stress and tears especially in America. Save yourself the regrets by choosing a partner wisely. This is what i have for you all today.

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Written By Tina Ufelle.